Similar to someone with a drink or drug addiction, porn addicts tend to replace important relationships and commitments with their drug of choice, pornography. It’s a compulsive and consistent sexual problem which will manifest in many ways. You can easily recognise if you are becoming a porn addict as you will isolate yourself from others, you will spend hours or even days amongst images and experiences in which porn provides. While some porn addicts use masturbation as part of their act, this can lead to no intimate sex with your partner.
I have been asked many times if I am a sex or porn addict, no I am not. I don’t see my enthusiastic desire to engage in sex as wrong, I see it as healthy and my partner is definitely not complaining. As for being a porn addict I can assure you after participating in adult movies I am way too critical of the way performers act on film for me to become an addict! I would make a great critic mind you.
Some of the signs you are becoming a porn addict are: you have an inability to stop your behavior of using porn, you get angry if asked to stop watching porn, Your hiding your amount of use of porn, your living a double secret life, you’re getting lost in porn and your spending more time than intend watching it.
Don’t get me wrong, if you use it to masturbate and watch it before doing so, I don’t consider this a problem…I’ve done it enough myself! It’s also great to watch with a partner.
What is Porn Addiction
For many having a porn addiction is hard-literatly , the addiction needs honesty and outreach. This begins by finding someone who has knowledge working with sex addicts and opening up to them without feeling embarrassed. Just like the 12 step program in AA, there is a 12 step sexual recovery programme.
Pocket Porn has become a massive problem amongst men and women since the rise in technology, now they can communicate at any time with webcam and many women, and men are happy to take naked pictures of themselves and send them out. Women in particular who suffer low self-esteem or body issues are more likely to develop a sexting habit.
Porn addiction is not defined by the type of sexual act, or by the choice of sexual partner, it’s more by the person’s inability or unwillingness to stop their sexual eagerness despite the consequences.
Why is porn addiction so high?
Astonishing figures show that there is a massive rise in porn addiction, over 60% of people with a porn addiction have never visited a strip club or rented a porn movie! Easy access has made it easy for the person to be anonymous, so they can’t be embarrassed. I remember before the internet came out, whilst I was working in LA as an adult actress, it was so high standard and we made an absolute fortune compared to today. As soon as the internet came in and it was easier to access porn and the industry became a different world. It is at this point I retired.
With remarkable speed, more people who have never had an addiction have become addicted to porn. With over one million pornographic sites on the internet, 10,000 added in the last year, and one quarter of the internet request now revolving around pornography, pornography sites make up 12% of internet sites making it so widespread. There is no wonder more people are becoming porn addicts.
The Virtual reality world is now filled with sexual content, they make it possible to invent experiences, relationships and identities while experimenting in the virtual world. Unfortunately this changes people’s interpersonal skills as they become more used to tech porn.
Virtual reality porn does contain positive aspects also, it helps provides secrecy, where people can look for intimacy and feel a sense of freedom and power. As users dabble in the privacy their own homes users make it a personal and untraceable experience and can fulfil their sexual fantasies. Unfortunately with every positive comes a negative and the user may become reliant on online porn, leading to them becoming an addict.
So how do people get addicted?
Well the industry is great at making people stay hooked. The adult porn industry is a multibillion pound industry designed to lure in unsuspecting new customers. They use banner advertisements or spam e-mail is unsolicited. Often spam emails will hide behind their links.
The sex industry also uses legitimate sites to lure new customers. Many pornographic sites have addresses similar to non-pornograpahic sites. If you search for words ambiguous such as girls, pump, young, and even ball you are most likely directed to a sex site. The internet has no bounds, it is global and it is the biggest banking business on the internet. It’s supported by all the banks as they provide the payment platform for a big percentage of the takings. Yes, everyone is connected to the porn world in some way or another.
What can be done?
With porn addiction no longer just for the creepy loner, lonely man or women, it is everywhere. Normal people from all walks of lives are claiming that pornography has taken over their lives. The criteria for determining if you are addicted to porn are much the same as ones used to identify other addictions. If you are viewing, reading, watching or thinking about pornography so it is interfering with your work, your relationships, your family and your social interactions, it is a problem.
Here are some tips to try to regain your online use.
Think carefully about why you want to avoid porn sites, what is important to you? are you wasting time on these sites? are you concerned it’s affecting your family? are you losing sleep? do you feel guilty? Having a strong reason to quit pornography is a great motivator.
Make a promise to yourself that you will try not to watch pornography. Making a promise is setting boundaries.
Do your best to keep your promise. Habits are going to be hard to break, if you feel like you’re slipping, think about the benefits of staying away from porn.
Look at yourself in the mirror when you have tempting thoughts tell yourself that you are not that person. If this doesn’t work then see how much money you have spent on it as this should hopefully reconfirmed it’s not worth it.
Get rid of everything on your computer remotely related to porn. Delete bookmarks, delete history, resign memberships and disable your webcam.
Develop an interest away from the computer such as a hobby, join a gym, spend time with family. There are many things you can do without a computer. Think and stay positive, congratulate yourself and focus on what to do, not what you can’t do.
As with most addictions they can get you down, you need to ask for help and put in the hard work.