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Porn Star “Shame”.

18253011_242893732853830_6204870747802828800_n“A lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get its pants on.”

Once again, the headlines feature high end escort, Valerie Fox making accusations of assault against a celebrity while under the influence of alcohol. Her previous headlines were around accusations against British Politician Nigel Farage and them “not joining the mile-high club”! It’s almost as confusing as her Instagram name “VeggieGlamBabe” seen she likes meat a lot more than she says she does…

On this most recent occasion, the police are taking it no further. However, yet again, apparently baseless accusations by a porn star have tarnished the Industry.

Such allegations via the media affect the British Porn industry in many ways. Most notably, and unfortunately, people don’t simply see the headline & think – “oh it’s just her again. Rather, they associate the entire porn industry with her latest alleged misadventures. Let’s apply this latest headline to another industry – banking. When Barings bank went down it was because of one man’s illicit trading. Everyone else in the sector (ok, most of them!) worked diligently & honestly – & yet they lost their jobs when the bank went down. Starting to get the picture of my beef with these most recent misadventures involving Ms Fox?

Models enter the porn Industry for the money – there is no doubt about that – otherwise, they would pursue their sexual appetites behind closed doors with like-minded people and not in the public eye.

It is common knowledge that once you have gone public having sex on film you can’t turn back the clock. It us equally well-known that it is even harder to stay at the top.

Nevertheless, models who become porn actresses do have the chance to have a long-term career, if they don’t chase fame.  Take Ella Hughes, for instance – an all round business women as shown recently on BBC.

However for most, once they become notorious, it can lead to negativity – not to mention long-term mental issues, as they turn to raise their profile as “celebrities”, so wanting – even needing – to be recognised in the lime-light.

Unfortunately many models think of today and not tomorrow. This leads to many issues such as the eternal need for attention, aswell as financial gain, mental health issues and addictions, all of which will only be resolved with counselling or therapy.

Of course, much of society believes the porn industry damages women. And the antics of Ms Fox simply re-inforces the stereotype.

Actually, I disagree with that stereotype, as I believe most porn actresses have issues well before entering the industry, and it is a form of escape for them.

It is when they leave the industry that these issues really come back to bite them.

Now don’t get me wrong, I should feel sorry for Valerie as she allows herself to be portrayed as a victim. Unfortunately, I don’t. I have worked in, and beside other participants in the industry for over 20 years, and now continue to do so a Counsellor. In this period, I have known a number of victims of mental and physical abuse and they were left so traumatised that the papers were the last place they went – let alone shopping the very next day!

Having a colourful life as an ex-porn star and a hooker is fantastic if you enjoy it. But don’t for one minute think the newspapers are going to hide your past as you sell your story to them. Believe me, the media is only interested in what sells more papers – they have no personal interest in you.

Making accusations for your own self-promotion can adversely affect many people, well beyond the people involved who have families & careers at stake – not to mention the broader adult industry as a whole. And the damage such accusations causes cannot be easily rectified.

If there is any truth in the accusations, don’t go to the press. Take yourself to hospital and the police, and have the issue dealt with it in the right way. And do so for your own sake, not to gain media attention.

Seriously, porn stars – whether former or current – tend to be bracketed in the same way in the public eye. So if one porn star allows herself to be seen as victim – especially if the seek to be seen that way – everyone in the industry is tarred with the same brush. Think about it – if one industry participant does drugs, the image of the entire industry is seen the same way. Yes, one glaring and apparently false accusation of assault by one model, labels all adult actresses as untrustworthy.

My advice is make a business plan for yourself before entering the industry; don’t mix business with pleasure; and don’t think you will have long-term fame and money as they rarely go together with anyone that works in pornography.

If you want to talk to someone about any of these issues, in particular how to best transition from the adult industry, feel free to contact me for counselling or some advice on the best way to do so.

In the meantime Ms Fox – as Winston observed – it may be time to put your pants back on!

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    1. Would you like to also warn models about repercussions and. The crap money compared to pre internet. After being the former porn queen of the UK from 2000 I would never advise anyone to be a porn star now as it will ruin them and not worth the money for the chaos it causes. I’m so not against porn but against encouraging people to choose it as a career.

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