Everyone wants to be liked, its human nature. The truth is not everyone is compatible with one another. There are always going to be others that simply rub you the wrong way-and your included in this too. However here are some simple do and don’ts when it comes to getting others to like you-especially with dating.
Here are some simple tips to improve your popularity.
Nothing is more a turn off than talking to someone and they completely refuse to hear what you have to say. My advice is make sure you are not guilty of this by listening to what others have to say, after all they are wanting to share stuff with you. You don’t have to like it, you don’t even need to agree. However, both parties can learn a lot if they remain civil and willing to consider what the other is saying. Trust me the more approachable you are the more attractive you are.
It’s a no brainer really, yet so many get dragged into this situation and it’s not healthy. The rule is if you are not willing to say it someone’s face, don’t say it. If you are in a group where others start talking behind someone’s back it’s best to walk away, or make it clear you want no part of it. Remember being part of it is guilty by association.
Sharing stuff too soon is a good way to get people to distance from you. Everyone has their own set of problems to deal with. If your too open too soon about the issues in your life you can come across as self-absorbed. Remain a bit reserved about what’s happening in your own life, and try asking the other person about their interest. Don’t make the whole conversation about you.
Just like everyone has their own set of issues, everyone has their 15 minutes of fame-some fortunate have it longer. The thing to remember is no one person is greater or lesser than anyone else. Boasting about where you have been, what you have accomplished, or who you know comes over like a cry for attention. Never fight to make your presence known by name dropping or trying to appear better than others. Not only do you have the image of a meerkat, it will estrange people from wanting to get to know the real you.
Don’t act like a child and throw a temper tantrum to something you dislike, it’s not an effective way to make your point as an adult no matter how angry or hurt you may be as it can further complicate things, or draw negative attention your way. If you feel your blood pressure rising, or tears about to escape, excuse yourself and go somewhere quiet to compose yourself. This does not mean you have to be made of stone or not express your emotions, but there is a time and place for everything.
Nothing is more of a turn off than people who are not respectful of others. Imagine how you would feel if you were confiding in someone and they got up and left the room. Playing with your phone in the middle of a conversation is exactly the same thing. Unfortunately our lives are controlled by technology and we are constantly connected to a device, just don’t let it take priority. Serious you will survive without it for the length of a conversation.
There is an old saying that misery loves company, trust me it’s not the way to attract or engage others. People who complain too much come over as victims of their circumstances. It’s also too serious for a new partner or friend to deal with. Being over indulgent with your issues will take away your playful confident side and drive people away. Being cheerful will keep you rejuvenated, refreshed and focused. It also confirms you have a balanced life and will make you more desirable.
And remember.. Your never be able to please everyone, so give up trying. Let people who don’t like you have their own opinion, its their viewpoint not a fact. The most important thing is to follow your heart, look for reasons to be happy, take time for others, be respectful, and don’t make any crisis a drama.