Do you have a right to sexual labels?

The hashtag “Metoo” campaign is now a long-lost memory hidden amongst the online world and  the press have stopped talking about it-which means it is no longer trendy. The worldwide campaign of standing up for women’s rights has left a sour taste amongst many men and rightly so as many people place all men under this label.

Could it be that men have been blaming women since the day of Eve? Even now many are blaming women for all of life’s disasters-look at Brexit for instance-people assume Theresa May is entirely to blame, which is far from the truth. Many men compare her to Margaret Thatcher who many say led the once bulldog bred Britain into poverty and that women can not rule the world-or is it that many just don’t understand the equality rules between men and women.

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The “Metoo” campaign was to fight out sexual abuse, not to create it. Fast forward to 2019 where sex is openly spoken about yet misinterpretated through television and media to make people think of it as a dirty word if you actually do it as a source of income. Prostitution dates back to when life began and most people are actually trading their bodies for some return in every sense of life. Therefore, have women created the problem of others calling us bitches, whores and slut’s?  If you are in a relationship you can withhold sex from a man-this makes you a bitch, if you work in the sex trade as business then you are called a whore, and if you enjoy sex and make it part of your life freely then your classed as a slut. Therefore there is no escape to being sexually labelled by both sexes.

Channel Four recently aired a production called “Mums make Porn” which I watched with dread not only because  they glamorised the porn industry by using a high-end production studio owned by “Erika Lust” which is not the true reflection of the porn industry these days, they also used inexperienced parents who know nothing about making porn making the true professionals be labeled as dirty and outcast, especially for the female performers.  Do people not realize that sex is completely natural and that some people are happy using their bodies as their work and pride themselves of it. Showing parents with no knowledge of pornography was going to cause online abuse for many performers and also to its viewers who had an opinion. Are people bad for watching porn-no, is the porn industry responsible for downloading it into your child’s sight, no. The only people responsible for bringing pornography into anyones house is the person providing the source to view the material, i.e laptops,computers and mobile phones. In my 20 years of covering the sex industry I do not know of one performer who has made a pornographic movie aimed at a child or for childrens viewing- it is called Adult entertainment for this very reason.

The point is we all are entitled to be who we choose to be and this counts in sexuality, gender, professional choices and every aspect of our lives. What others think of us is not of our concern-standing up for who we are is. If you are a sex worker it is your given right to do as you please, its your body and your decisions.

If you are the one sat at home on your computer shaming people online for their choices by leaving social media degrading comments then shame on you for being such a coward and a two faced masterbater -yes, don’t think for one minute you were forced to see a women having sex on film- it was your choice to go and abuse someone so own it. Cyberstalking is the use of the Internet or other electronic means to stalk or harass an individual, group, or organization. It may include false accusations, defamation, slander and libel. It may also include monitoring, identity theft, threats, vandalism, solicitation for sex, or gathering information that may be used to threaten, embarrass or harass. Cyberstalking is a criminal offense.As a counsellor to sex workers and a mediator between sexual victims and the Met police I can happily say that if you are the one leaving sexual labelling comments of Whore, Slut or Bitch on anyone’s timeline via social media then you could be contributing to pushing them towards self loathing and addictions. This is the same for production companies who offer no support and no pay to performers to take part in their productions for their own gain which is classed as slavery.

Do you have a right to sexually label someone?

Porn Shutdown in whole of Europe after Nacho Vidal confirmed HIV positive

Nacho Vidal has today been confirmed as HIV. The whole of Europe is now on shut down for a month from filming X rated movies. This is protocol when any actor is confirmed HIV well first, second and third generation actors are tested for the disease. The industry is in shock around the world as the world’s top actor “Nacho” was confirmed positive in Barcelona.

First generation actresses on the list are Denise Martin, Cady Doll, Ginenra, Talia Mint, Linda del sol, Gina Ferocuious, Monica Mavi, Rhona Stops.

Nacho has only replied to one reporter from the Spanish press saying “I don’t know where you’ve got the info but it’s in very bad taste. I won’t say anything thanks”.

Industry insiders are on social media spreading the news well Nacho confirms he will release a statement in the coming hours. Europe at present is free from having to use condoms, California in the US is the only place where the law is condom only productions.

Test for HIV on performers currently takes a month and sometimes longer to show up on tests. During this time nervous performers will be held on standstill from performing any X rated movies.

Some speculate that he has had HIV for some time with rumours stating he has known he is HIV positive since 2004 when Porn Wiki Leaks in 2013 released a statement saying “Nacho is not only a closet homosexual but also likes to produce and use only HIV positive men to infect women in the industry, which was the reason for an industry shut down in 2004 which caused 5 people to get the virus. This suggested Nacho should be banned from the USA for good.

In 2018 he was nominated by AVN for Best Foreign sex scene production and in 2013 was given the award of best boy/girl seen. Nacho first got into the industry in 1998 and soon built a reputation as a windman both in front and behind the camera. Only last year he was working on a TV series called Tushy,  First Time Auditions and Evil Angel.

Top USA porn star and producer partner charged on sex charges to minors.

Today top USA industry leaders AVN released a statement Adult film star Mercedes Carrera and her producer boyfriend Daemon Cins pleaded not guilty Wednesday to eight counts of sexually abusing a child under 10. The defendants—whose legal names are Melinda Smith, 35, and Jason Whitney, 43—allegedly abused an unidentified female minor “several times” over four months. “The minor reported it to her family, and the family reported it to us,” San Bernardino County Sheriff’s Detective Donald Patton said. “It’s very sickening that someone would do something like that to a child under the age of 10 years old.” Officers found drugs, guns, and a makeshift studio in their bedroom so they could film and record “various pornographic videos or web shows,” police said. Patton didn’t say how Smith and Whitney first targeted the girl, but said police “suspect there may be other victims.

If any industry performers feel they are effected by this or know more information please contact Alana Evans at APAG union Los Angeles, or myself so we can pass on more information.

STORMY Daniels cost CBB by refusing to enter the house two hours before it goes live.

Stormy Daniels had arrived in the UK ready for her appearance on Celebrity Big Brother after long negotiations Welcomed on arrival by the wet, moist British weather, something similar to what she has experienced many times before on set I am sure.

“Hurricane Daniels” is the name I have given her after months of negotiations, ups, downs and change of mind more times than the world financial exchange rate.. pulled out 2 hours before the show was due to go live on UK television costing the channel an enormous amount of money.

I was asked in April of this year if I could contact “Stormy” and ask if she would consider appearing in this years CBB in August. Having worked beside the Adult industry for some 20 years I knew I could take this on, however I expressed my concerns from the start.

I knew it would not be easy especially with her having sucked Donald Trump in 2006 and becoming somewhat of a celebrity for it, however hard work is what I thrive on.

I’m also experienced well enough to know you can ask a top adult actress about business in the hope they will listen to you, if they don’t trust you then the door will be slammed in your face before negotiations can even start.

I work very closely with Stormy’s former friend Alana Evans who is a true professional of the industry, therfore I had no doubt stormy would undoubtedly be the same. After all who would break two legal contracts amongst such high publicity.

Unknown to me Stormy would.

A brief chat in May introducing myself to her I found her an easy women to chat with on the phone , she sounded intelligent and business like, 30 minutes later I am introducing TV agent and Stormy to start negotiations amongst themselves. I was delighted that I had tracked her down to one spot and her making time in her diary for a scheduled call with me.

The following months were not that easy, she changed her mind on the first offer of £750,000 (I use the word work loosely) for a maximum of 3.5 weeks work…. Reason being she has a book to release the end of August back in the USA.

It was eventually negotiated after lots of hard work that she would complete one week as a house guest for £200,000. Obviously it’s not as easy as just signing on a dotted line to seal the deal like others, it’s television and all kinds of paperwork and checks are involved. I know first hand this was a bloody nightmare to get her to complete and left the deal still not completed one week before the show, giving myself, the TV channel and the agent a near heart attack. . Then in true diva style she threats to pull out 12 hours before boarding a flight, throwing not only the show but everyone who has worked so damn hard on it into a meltdown, including me.

I’m lost for words on her behaviour…. I’ve never worked on a business deal like it.. Not even in the Adult industry. The last deal I remember being anything remotely near this bad was when I performed in Sex Survivor 2000 for playboy.

Fast forward to today, she arrives, does the PR video introduction for the show and all required photoshoot material ready for the launch at 9pm. I can now reveal she pulled out at 7 pm two hours before the show went live after suddenly loosing herself in a unbelievable tantrum for no reason, speculation is that it could be related to intoxication, medication, exhaustion or drugs–that can be the only explanation for her sudden change of character and abusive behaviour towards the CBB team. She was to be the star of the show–she was to be given the platform to take control and earn herself a new reputation and mainstream career. One has to ask why did she take the first class flight provided by Channel five in the first place? After five months of negotiations and giving people the run around what was her mission? If it was to prove she breaks more contracts and that her word cannot be trusted then she has concreted this in style. So much so that she has convinced top agents around the world never to want to work her.

People assume Adult stars can be high maintenance, this I don’t deny as some can, however it is only a small percentage as the rest are easy to deal with. Trust me, 20 years of experience I know.

I have flown back from the middle east for the show and to make her feel welcome, I have spent so much time on it and had many sleepless nights because of the Stormy Daniels media circus.

Is all my hard work done, no way as I have to pick up the pieces of many professional people’s trust and rebuild relationships with media that she has ruined. I will be passing on reports to industry leaders and magazines on both sides of the ocean, I hope everyone sees that even by risking the chance on her could cost them dearly.

I will not let her walk out the show and just walk away, she has no idea who she is dealing with when taking on someone like me. -after all I am British and proud of it. I spend a quantity of my time helping young women transition, trying to convince the media that adult models are not just a reflection of a lost soul and the Adult industry does have real business women. In my opinion the Adult industry made her, invested in her alongside my self and others and unfortunately now she is a women who can’t be trusted.

Being aware of unreleased details surrounding this case I will add to the blog in due course. Information has emerged which I feel is in the public interest.

The Katie price negative effect on young women

Screenshot 2018-08-05 at 09.11.22Katie Price has made a bizarre revelation she has intentions to make a sex tape only months after she posted a video online of herself appearing to educate teenage fans on explicit subjects in the street asking if they learnt more from her than their teachers.

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Recent rumours circulating that she has plans to make another sex tape has not surprised many-even after she was investigated for revenge porn earlier this year involving Alex Reid.

The reality if you make a sex tape and when it gets out (and you should assume it will), it not only affects you, it affects your family, your friends, your acquaintances and the rest of your life and Katie should not be advertising this to her young fans. Katie needs to wake up and realise the negative impact she is having on teenagers and young women.

Her loyal fans follow her every move and it’s natural for them to think that tomorrow is another day and everything they do today will be fine tomorrow-however this is far from true in Jordan Land. What they choose to do today will affect their tomorrow, and the day after that, and the one after that too – forever. Before they know it,they will be 30 or 40 years of age, and will still be living with the consequences of the choices they make today.

Not everyone has the ability to survive the abuse and insults making a sex tape will bring and no celebrity should promote it as a way to gain more popularity,  this is why I am so passionate that every young girl should understand the effects making a sex tape could have.

Katie has sunken to an all time low to try to keep herself recognised as the nations glamour girl by making porn without understanding the responsibility she holds to young women. She has bills to pay- is rumoured to be bankrupt, Peter Andre is rumoured to be helping her out financially- I think this is to save embarrassment for his own children.

Jason Maskell, a former glamour model agent who’s now a successful entrepreneur and CEO of adultXfunding.com, revealed how the tape didn’t even rake in a huge fortune at the time, earning Katie £50,000 at the height of her career.

He said: “Katie Price, aka Jordan, has done one sex tape already and got paid very well for it.

“But, to be totally honest, the day of the sex tapes has gone due to the amount of leaked content of naked celebrities, and I mean real ones, not the UK Z-listed names.

“They may make something, but not as much as in the past. I doubt it would be the same as the £50,000 she got for her original.

Screenshot 2018-08-05 at 09.17.39Unfortunately, for her loyal fans that copycat her every move they simply overlook the context of  her decisions and actions;. and follow her decisions and actions to try to stay in the media for fame.

The impact of making porn is far wider than this and should be taken seriously. It includes making a personal choice to make a sex film, owning it and living with it long-term. Unless you have complete ownership of that footage it will be on the internet forever making someone else money and will not pay your bills, not even in the short-term.

She has made many past critical errors in her career and responsibility to her fans, one was removing her breast inplants- promoting the fact to her loyal fans- then a short time later she had them put back in again. Young women put themselves at risk to copy her.

Her publicised revenge porn on Alex Reid, her public put down of Peter Andre,  her past spats with Dane Bowers to name a few. Yes, she has done some good but this gets over shadowed by her desperate attempt to stay in the spotlight.

Remember, choices you make today will have an impact on your future. I work with many former adult stars and sex workers who try to move on. They suffer low self-esteem, isolation and lack of community skills such as interview skills, resume issues, and how to handle their past to move forward.

Your decision to make a sex tape will always be remembered. You will always be remembered for it – as “that” girl. Do not copy Katie Price.

 

Lianne Young

Sex and relationship counsellor for House of Ardent