HONOUR Announce top kink of UK

Honour is a well established adult brand and has been trading for 30 years. They focus on high quality products for all. They’re experienced in dealing with all sorts of kinks and provide great customer service. Bravo to Honour for making so many people across the country happy!

Read the full article today in The Sun with a map covering your area.

https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/7857147/britains-kinkiest-towns-and-cities/

The best way to describe the attractiveness of the vagina v the penis.

Jennifer Lopez is one hell of a women, great looks, body to be envious of and as I recently found out she can describe the attractiveness of the vagina better than anyone I know.

Taken from her move Gigli she describes it as-

Their form. Neck. Shoulders. Legs. Hips. I think pretty cool. Now, as far as your famous penis goes, the penis is like some sort of bizarre sea slug or like a really long toe. I mean, it’s handy. Important even. But the pinnacle of sexual design? The top of the list of erotic destinations? I don’t think so. Ones first impulse is to kiss what? To kiss the lips. Firm, delicious lips, sweet lips, surrounding a warm, moist, dizzingly scented mouth. That’s what everyone wants to kiss. Not a toe. Not a sea slug. A mouth. And why do you think that is, stupid? Because the mouth is the twin sister, the almost exact look-alike of what? Not the toe. The mouth is the twin sister of the vagina. And all creatures big and small seek the orifice, the opening, to be taken in, engulfed, to be squeezed, lovingly crushed by what is truly the all-powerful, all-encompassing. No, if it’s design you’re concerned with, hidden meaning, symbolism, power, forget the top of Mount Everest, forget the bottom of the sea, the moon, the stars, there is no place nowhere that has been the object of more ambitions, more battles than the sweet sacred mystery between a woman’s legs that I am proud to call my pussy. So I guess this is just my roundabout way of saying that it is women who are in fact the most desirable form. Wouldn’t you agree?

This is a priceless quotation from one of the most stunning women of my time. I can imagine what you are visioning her doing, so please remember she is actress!

Unfortunately no matter how much it turned him on Jennifer Lopez experienced her first real heartbreak when the Academy Award winning actor and star of Gone Girl, Ben Affleck called off their very public engagement in January, 2004.

How to get others to like you

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Everyone wants to be liked, its human nature. The truth is not everyone is compatible with one another. There are always going to be others that simply rub you the wrong way-and your included in this too. However here are some simple do and don’ts when it comes to getting others to like you-especially with dating.

Here are some simple tips to improve your popularity.

Remain open-minded

Nothing is more a turn off than talking to someone and they completely refuse to hear what you have to say. My advice is make sure you are not guilty of this by listening to what others have to say, after all they are wanting to share stuff with you. You don’t have to like it, you don’t even need to agree. However, both parties can learn a lot if they remain civil and willing to consider what the other is saying. Trust me the more approachable you are the more attractive you are.

Avoid Gossip

It’s a no brainer really, yet so many get dragged into this situation and it’s not healthy. The rule is if you are not willing to say it someone’s face, don’t say it. If you are in a group where others start talking behind someone’s back it’s best to walk away, or make it clear you want no part of it. Remember being part of it is guilty by association.

Remain Mysterious

Sharing stuff too soon is a good way to get people to distance from you. Everyone has their own set of problems to deal with. If your too open too soon about the issues in your life you can come across as self-absorbed.  Remain a bit reserved about what’s happening in your own life, and try asking the other person about their interest. Don’t make the whole conversation about you.

Stay Humble

Just like everyone has their own set of issues, everyone has their 15 minutes of fame-some fortunate have it longer. The thing to remember is no one person is greater or lesser than anyone else. Boasting about where you have been, what you have accomplished, or who you know comes over like a cry for attention. Never fight to make your presence known by name dropping or trying to appear better than others. Not only do you have the image of a meerkat, it will estrange people from wanting to get to know the real you.

Remain Calm

Don’t act like a child and throw a temper tantrum to something you dislike, it’s not an effective way to make your point as an adult no matter how angry or hurt you may be as it can further complicate things, or draw negative attention your way. If you feel your blood pressure rising, or tears about to escape, excuse yourself and go somewhere quiet to compose yourself. This does not mean you have to be made of stone or not express your emotions, but there is a time and place for everything.

Pay Attention

Nothing is more of a turn off than people who are not respectful of others. Imagine how you would feel if you were confiding in someone and they got up and left the room. Playing with your phone in the middle of a conversation is exactly the same thing. Unfortunately our lives are controlled by technology and we are constantly connected to a device, just don’t let it take priority. Serious you will survive without it for the length of a conversation.

Remain Cheerful

There is an old saying that misery loves company,  trust me it’s not the way to attract or engage others. People who complain too much come over as victims of their circumstances. It’s also too serious for a new partner or friend to deal with. Being over indulgent with your issues will take away your playful confident side and drive people away. Being cheerful will keep you rejuvenated, refreshed and focused. It also confirms you have a balanced life and will make you more desirable.

 

And remember.Your never be able to please everyone, so give up trying. Let people who don’t like you have their own opinion, its their viewpoint not a fact. The most important thing is to follow your heart, look for reasons to be happy, take time for others, be respectful, and don’t make any crisis a drama.

SEX ADDICTION

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Many people ask me if there is such a thing as SEX addiction, yes there is. Sex addiction is also known as hyper-sexuality and it can take over someone’s life and can have serious consequences because of the risks one will take to get their fix. It is a condition where an individual cannot manage their sexual behaviour, have constant sexual thoughts which affect their ability to work, find it hard to maintain relationships and the inability to maintain a normal functioning life because of sexual thoughts. 

Sex addiction is very similar to that of a drug addiction because they release the same chemicals in the brain, the only difference is drugs are substance and sex is an activity, and not getting the help you need can cause all kinds of issues such as depression, anger, anxiety and serious risk taking and unprotected sex, this is caused because the brain reward is not being met.

Sex addiction comes in many forms such as excessive use of pornography, masturbation, visiting prostitutes, excess sex and anonymous sex with strangers. This means it does not have to include penetrated sex as many assume, and neither does it mean a sex addict is a sexual predator. Sexual predators do not empathise with their victims as they do not care about their victims, they are also narcissist and usually someone who has power over others. An addict on the other hand has empathy and usually afterwards suffer self loathing which can manifest as depression or anxiety.

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As there are many forms of sex addiction it also means they have different signs, however generally if someone has increasing secrecy issues with their partner, avoidance of family and loved ones, moodiness or frustration because of their sexual thoughts then this could be a sign of a sex addiction. Other signs can include:

An obsession with sex or an abnormally high sex drive

Compulsive masturbation

Persistent use of pornography

Practising unsafe casual sex

Exhibitionist or voyeurism

Becoming sexually but not emotionally involved with people you do not know and confusion between sexual attraction and love

Being involved with more than one person

Using sex to manipulate others

Destructive relationships that you keep going back too or an obsession to attract others

Jumping from one relationship to another

An awareness of your urges not matter the consequences

Sexual rage disorder, where the individual becomes distressed, anxious, restless and may turn to violence if unable to engage in their addiction

If you are concerned you may have a sex addiction the first thing is to seek help, leaving it can cause extensive damage to you and those around you. I offer complete confidential counselling and therapy sessions for individuals and couples on sex addiction.

Lianne Young

Cousellor and addictions therapist

STEALTHING AND FIGHTING BACK

Sex is as strong as love, and if love was a drug there is no doubt it would be sold by the gram! Therefore, surely keeping one’s composure on safe sex rather than being loose is rather important. When it comes to safe sex I am an advocate for demanding an STI test or using condoms if I have a new partner, nobody is worth risking my life for. It’s a no brainer what causes sexually transmitted diseases and if you don’t know then you should not be having sex full stop!

Stealthing-The-Dangerous-New-Sex-Move-Why-Is-It-Considered-RapeThe news headlines have come up with the word  “Stealthing” as the latest trend, however it’s far from new as it has been going on forever. One of the main problems is women actually feel they can not turn around and say STOP in the heat of the moment even if it looks like the condom has slipped off or broken, and some even pass it off as an accident and carry on.

“Stealthing” is a sexual assault no matter which way you look at it and it needs to be dealt with in the same manner, this means women need to report it as a sexual assault. Personally not only would I report it I would kick the bastard in the balls to make sure he never repeated this act.

So what can girls do to prevent it?

The best way to combat this is for females to take the lead on protection, I am not going to suggest go on a sex strike or abandon sex, I mean take the lead and show that you’re up for great sex with the right precautions-and be selective.

Should the boy provide the condoms?

Come on girls this is the 21st century and everyone is responsible for protecting themselves, It should be like carrying a tampon. If a guy refuses to wear one then refuse to have sex with him-it really is this simple. There is no reason why you cannot have the ride of your life, just make sure it’s bagged up and hold on tight!

It’s my first time so I will not get pregnant, or I’m on the pill so I don’t need to use one

This is a myth, you can still get pregnant before starting your periods because you could still be producing eggs, and no matter how many times you think washing your vagina of traces of semen you can still get pregnant and being on the pill makes no different to STI what so ever, condoms are still needed every time you have sex to protect yourself. If you are concerned that something down below does not look right such as spots, cuts or anything weeping then either refrain from sexual intercourse, stick to foreplay and use a condom!

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Unfortunately sticking to foreplay does not always protect you from STI, yes it is safer but you can still catch some STIs just by rubbing against each other, and if sperm gets anywhere near the vagina you could get pregnant-even if you are a virgin. Foreplay comes in many forms with blow jobs being the most common and these can easily lead to an unwanted STI such as chlamydia or gonorrhea. Yes, you can get all of theses in the mouth so if something looks or smells funny bag it up ladies or refrain from sexual activity for now.

So what is the answer?

The best way to deal with this is to remember we will have much better sex if we know we are protected.  It means being choosy about who you sleep with, understanding that more partners means more risks. It does not mean not having fun, or not being passionate. It’s about remembering there is nothing sexy about an STI. You need to be prepared for the unexpected and always carrying a condom.

 

Written by: Lianne Young

Your a great catch, so how come you’re single?

7019541287You’d make a great girlfriend or boyfriend and you know it, others tell you the same. Some may even say you’re the best partner someone could ask for, yet for some reason you’re still single. We all know being single and independent is a fantastic feeling, so why is there a voice inside your head asking you why you’re still single. Why can’t people see you’re a good catch?  You may sometimes worry the clock is ticking and you’re not getting any younger and you don’t want to be left alone for the rest of your life, and of course your family are friends are reminding you, you’re not getting any younger. Right?

There are several reasons that you may still be single, here are some reasons you may not be able to catch your ideal partner…yet.

You don’t believe in settling for second best. Many people feel they are running out of time to find someone special so they settle, this is not you.  You know your ideal partner is out there and you refuse to settle for anything less. There is nothing wrong with this, as long as your expectations are unreachable.

You’re waiting to meet someone worthy of you. You work hard, play hard,have a nice home and are in great shape, so why would you not want to meet your equal. You want someone who has the same attributes as yourself.

You don’t live your life focusing on finding your ideal partner. You simply don’t need a partner to prove you can love and be loved. Yes, you would love a partner in crime, but you also want them to be on your wave length. You have probably already been on several dates or had several relationships, but they were not for you. I have always said, You have to go through them to find the right one!

You’re simply too busy enjoying life. You have holidays booked, work very hard, and have friends to see, where would you find the time? I know a few of my own friends like this…

You’re focused on your career, after all it is 2016. Women are the worst offenders for this as they climb the ladder of success. Then suddenly start panicking around mid to late 30s about the biological clock!

Your friends are just too awesome to spend less time with. Every weekend is about hanging with your friends, and we all know that when you date the amount of time you spend with your friends reduces massively.

Your confidence scares people. I have been told many times I intimidate men with my confidence, and it’s true. My thinking is I may want a man, but I don’t need one! Some men have even told me they were to scared of being rejected so did not bother chatting me up! Unfortunately being confident does have its drawbacks.

You’re focusing on yourself. Everyone knows you should know that to love others you must love yourself first. You want to be in a place where you are comfortable with your life, career, and want to know exactly what you want before sharing it with someone else.

You’re in love with single life, so why would you want to settle down? You have built yourself a good lifestyle and don’t want to give it up or even share it. Or you just don’t have the time because you are so busy with your already busy schedule.

Or it could be simply down to the fact that your just not ready. Why go looking if you can’t offer a fully functioning you. One that is available to give love and not just receive it.

Remember all you singletons out there, if you are looking for your ideal partner then you have to make the time and be available!

Why every relationship needs a contract

In the beginning of any relationship it is lustful and exciting as you get to know one another, then you fall in love and bingo you are in a full-blown relationship. Then comes the next step of moving in together. The next decision is where do you live, who moves, who’s paying what, how big will the house be and how it will fit the both of you. This is the easy part as they are all easy to negotiate but what about the small print?
In long-term relationships, of course, there are agreements, many of which are unspoken. Many of which are invisible, until someone breaks them, and until this time they don’t give any thought at all of the relationship contract. The deal of a relationship contract is not about love, the love word does not come into it, it’s about the vision of the relationship. Do you agree on what the rules are?  Do you agree on what the boundaries are?  Do you agree on what is off-limits?  Do you agree on the vocabulary you are going to use when you talk with each other? Most likely the answer is no, you just met, fell in love and decided to be together, and as you know relationships are expensive in many ways.

This would be like myself going up to a close friend and saying “Hey you know I really like you, let’s start a company together”.  Of course my friend say “that’s a great idea”. We have no idea what the company is going to do, we have no budget, we don’t know where the company is going to be located, but we know we are going to have a company.

When a couple does not have a shared vision of the relationship they don’t know what to expect, and what they can rely on. It’s about learning and agreeing how to handle a situation.  This is why a relationship contract is advised. 

How to write a contract

A relationship contract is a document that gets written up and signed by (usually) two people within an intimate relationship. But, in truth, the contract is about having a very honest conversation. It isn’t legally binding. It isn’t a marital contract. It’s a relationship contract.

You sit down together and say, “Okay, what does being in a relationship mean to us individually? What’s important to us that we make sure we include in here? What can we put in our contract that would make you feel safe, loved, seen, and cared for?”

You write down/type up all of the things that each of you wants to include, print it off, and sign it. Then you have your very own custom-made relationship contract!